'dil dhadkne do' but for who?
I love to watch films. Today I finished up watching a not so renowned bollywood movie and I thoroughly enjoyed it. It was about this flithy rich family and how they don't really get along with each other, as it's shown in pretty every other film with a flithy rich family. The son is forced to take care of the family business and the daughter gets married off to somebody for the sake of family business. As the plot progresses, it's revealed that the husband spent a lot of time cheating on his wife and less doing actual work. The wife could never leave him because she had nowhere to go. The daughter wasn't happy in her marriage and by the end of the film decides to divorce her husband. Everything falls into place and the wife 'somehow' decided to 'forgive' the husband. What struck me the most is was this actually a happy ending? Will she be able to carry on her marriage knowing that her husband had slept with multiple and now he knows that she knows too? Is saying sorry with teary eyes is all it takes to make someone forgive you? Well that question was left unanswered and according to the storyline it seemed that they are all happy, so then who am I interfere with that?
But, what if the wife had someone to go back to? I wonder if she would do it or would she just feel terrible and pity herself because she's perhaps so in love with her husband. And that makes me wonder about other things, like, if the wife was with the husband when he was nothing but rags and dirt, and supported him throughout his struggles to gold and riches, he still thought that cheating on her was a good idea. Not just once, but multiple times. Did he fall out of love for her? I assume that's not correct. But, then why did he do it? Maybe, he didn't like how his wife have started to look, a little wrinkled, pale, and chubby. Maybe, it gave him the validation that he has still got the game in him, that he can still seduce women, and it made him powerful, something men crave the most.
Various psychological studies provide several reason as to why a person would cheat on their partner, but is any of them truly justified? It's a choice that a person can make consciously or unconsciously, which is also 100% avoidable. All the content I consume on the internet regardinf infidelity fucks up my brain. Some of it tries to justify it as if it's a mistake that can and should be forgiven. Some have categorised in various domains, one for which the person can perhaps be excused, and the other where the solution is breakup. Microcheating, sexting, emotional infedelity, a venture to discover and check out your wild fantasies, and then you find yourself lying naked next to someone you perhaps don't even love. A love that comes from within often gets faced with societal and the expectataions of the internet. Is true love in this generation just a myth? It makes me insane that so many people in my life have fumbled the most genuine people because they were under the impression that they have more choices, and can and will find someone better than this said person. A delusion of having choices and to chase the thrill we wear down our hearts and our souls and by the time we do find someone we seem to have nothing to offer to them.